The body and the mind - a 400 year-long mistake

Imagine you are walking down the street. It's a normal day, and it's just getting dark. Traffic is passing as people head home from work. A large, angry man runs up to you shouting. He's right there, inches from you. His face is red and snarling. He's blaming you. He starts jabbing his finger into your chest.

Does your body feel any reaction when you read that? Do you feel a tension across your shoulders, or the beginnings of a frown? Perhaps your hand or foot is tapping nervously. If you do notice anything, stop reading and take a couple of deep breaths. Feel the breath as it flows in, and as it flows out, let go of any tension you find. So, what happened?

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Your goals are making you miserable

You've followed the advice. You've set yourself goals. They're SMART. You keep a list of them which you check regularly. How's that working out?

If you're like most people you don't reach your all your goals. When you do you feel good for a bit, then wonder if that was the right thing to do after all. When you don't reach them you feel bad about letting yourself down.
Both of these things make you miserable. The problem isn't you. The problem is how you're using goals.

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You are over-planning

I've done my time in the Certainty Mines of Planonia. It is a barren, desolate place. I recognise many of you from there. I'm here to tell you that you don't need to toil away any more. The future will be a lot better if you do less planning.

Plans feel productive. There's so much advice out there telling you to have a three month, twelve month, five year plan. Don't be caught without a plan! What will people think?

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